Thursday, September 4, 2008

Heavy Rocks

Have you ever felt when the rock gets too heavy you eventually feel like dropping it and give up? Or you feel like the heavier it is the better it feels? Then sometimes, it is not you who carry the rock but it is the rock that is being thrown at you. And also, piles of rocks can be felt on the shoulder sometimes. So after all, these rocks are just pressure or stress that you gain from your everyday’s life of routine, works, studies, and relationship. It can be just about anything these days that could provide a heavy burden for you.

Stress or pressure is something nobody wants in a way because of the difficulty and hardship we would have to go through. Nothing is easy of course as we won’t know or understand not until we have learned to master the skills or gain knowledge of it. So, when people say stress or pressure and burden they often refer to the intense tension they feel within their mind or within them therefore it is the psychological hardship they feel or experience. When a person is stressed or pressured, he or she would lose control of its attitude in way where anger may occur yet some may turn emotionally sad or moody. Do you realize sometimes your friends or family members might look very dull and has got smiley on them at all? Of course, that is the very sign of something is bothering them well in their mind. Often, when people feel stressed or pressured they feel they need some space in away for them to get rid of their problems yet some tend to release their tension through anger or sadness onto someone else. These two situations are dangerous in a way because the human factors, which mean the human nature of overreacting, can actually cause harm to either ourselves or the people around us.

When a person is stressed or pressured, he or she keeps herself silent and not talking to anyone else. He or she exiles in a room alone in search of his or her own private space, and wish not to be bothered or helped by anyone else. So what is gonna happen when he or she is alone? Think about it for a second, suicide? Scream? Banging the wall? It can be just about anything that we would hardly expect or imagine. Let me put it this way, if that person has a positive attitude thus he or she can most likely to be thinking and handling the stress or pressured in a positive manner. When it is being handled positively, the outcome would be trying to resolve the problems by having logical and rational thinking to produce solutions. In key terms the very need of solving and getting rid of stress or pressure is to have solution. Thus, if a person is positive enough and able to control his or her emotion then he or she is able to manipulate the whole situation. When it is in control, it would be easier to deal with in order to resolve what the problem has. Of course, some people who are positive wouldn’t exile themselves as well because they would approach others for consultations which are even more efficient.

But how about those who are not so positive and yet would start doing silly things? Yes, these are the type of people you will have to watch out. When they have negative thinking, it may be one of the fastest ways to ruin their lives. Why? This is because the lack of confidence and intellectual mind to determine the brighter side of life, and also the environment plays a role as well sometimes. A negative thinker is usually people you would feel they have no goals or achievement towards their lives, and they will always say no to you no matter what you ask to participate. They would also show signs of not logical and rational behavior which they are often left out for a circle. It is good to say no sometimes but in a positive way, yet these types of people are often to be referring to the negative type. So when they are under stressed or pressured, they can be very suicidal because they are unable to handle the amount of rocks they have to carry. They can be very emotional as well because they feel they need attention or it makes them feel better to actually put it out on others. The very reason why they feel suicide is one of the fastest way to resolve their problems is because they are being irresponsible and the do not wish to go through the difficulty they have to encounter. But being irresponsible is not a good thing because once you have start something and you will have to end it as well. So in order to escape from the responsibility that seems to be heavy, it is best to run away from it and let other person to carry it for you which is very negative. When these piles of rocks are being left behind, he or she can run away freely and not bother to look back. So this often creates the burden and stress on others which eventually let other people to walk into the problems. But it is how irresponsible people in such a way that they are too afraid to face what the reality is as the lack of confidence within themselves often creates fear for themselves.

As for those who are emotional, they can be very pitiful and yet scary. Have you ever seen someone screaming their throat out just because they feel stressed or pressured? How about those who tend to cut themselves? And those who are to be physically abusive? These are the scary ones because in a way they can be very harmful. Of course, the ones who cry, scream or yell, and start cutting themselves are usually people who beg and crave for attention. Again, they want others to help them but yet by putting the responsibility onto others. Certain age-group people can be very emotionally tense, especially teenagers and adults who are in between mid 30s and 40s. Teenagers of course are still immature thus it is not a surprise that they can be very emotional, but as for the adult some can still be very immature as well because of the lack of rational and intellectual thinking due to the affect by the environment. Thus, these are the people who have psychological problem because sometimes they feel there is a need to feel pain in order to forget about the problems. Of course, the mind works one way or another by reacting to what is prioritize or what is more important when the body sends the signal. So when the mind is focusing on the pain it gets from the body, eventually it tends to forget about the problems which the stress or pressure would disappear but not for long because nobody can endure pain or else you start killing yourself to get rid of that feeling, yet it does happen sometimes.

But what about those who start to be physically abusive? Some guys can actually beat their wives or girlfriends when they feel stressed or pressured the physical force can be deadly as well. It is the anger that drives them towards to such situation, because they are unable to manipulate their own attitude. When you lost control, you would eventually lose yourself and start to forget what the reality is as you let your mind flies freely without coordinates and directions. Thus the craziness eventually is being thrown onto others which are harmful. Unconsciously, they are not aware of what they do as the mind could also shut down and let the body works its way through the uncontrollable anger.

Even when stress and pressure can be seen as a difficult manner to handle, but for those who can manage and handle it well they are very useful as well. In this positive aspect, some people tend to work better under pressure as it helps them to be more work quality efficient and productive. Besides, they are able to manipulate what is to be balance in order for them to deal with the whole situation, totally under control. Even when it feels stress, it helps to prioritize what is more critically important as to accomplish them. Thus, this helps a person to achieve his or her goal. Of course, through such a wild ride you’re able to develop your management skill and others or even learn more applications into your daily lives. Some even take it as a challenge because it is an accomplishment for them. When it is taken as a challenge, it is seen as a goal or a target to be accomplished. Personally, I get stress out certain times under pressure but yet it helps to work better and perform better as a result it gives me improvement in myself where I am able to see how far I have gone through and what I have achieve. And, I’m able to discover what I am capable of and to define what is impossible to overcome any limitations. Challenges are great when you do them and not just looking at them, as pressure or stress can be provided as a drive towards an accomplishment of goals and target. So, it is not that bad after all to work under stress and pressure but do take it just positively.

To think positively, it is a way to be more rational and intellectual where as you are to have a form of healthy lifestyle which doesn’t not only affect you but also towards others where you can create a positive and friendly environment. A single help stars with a single random kindness that gives another to others. The single step starts with yourself today or now, give it a try perhaps you can start to make a different and able to be a role model for others. Positively, the rocks will never be too heavy.

By Jack Ho

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