Many people don't really live with honesty and modesty nowadays, there are reasons why towards this of course. Humans, we, have this instinct called fear within us. Ever since were young, we're often terrified and horrified by anything that's scary enough to make you cry for God's help. Everybody has fear; fear of insects, fear of ghosts, fear of monsters, fear of disasters, etc. So fear comes in all forms within us because it depends on how daring and how coward a person can be. So it is because of fear in something, it leads some people to live their lives in denial.
Some people think they are very charming and beautiful, just because the way they dress and with the amount of cosmetic they put on, they assume they are perfect. Of course, people dress up nicely and apply make-ups because it makes them feel confident, as what most people would say. But in actual fact, they are denying themselves because they cannot accept the original way they look. I'm not pointing towards those who live with simplicity, but it is to those who live with denials. Some girls are fat, fat as in huge body size, yet they dress in a way that we called "Horrible" because that is not what they are. My point is some big size ladies dress as if they are slim and sexy; tight clothing, short sexy skirts or pants. Imagine that, how would you feel when you see it with your own eyes? Okay, maybe they would say it makes them feel comfortable dressing that way, but, because they think they are sexy. In this case, perhaps I think she should take a good look in the mirror. People deny the actual fact just because they wanna to gain more attentions or fame. Of course, there's nothing wrong to be fat or big because it's written in the gene, nobody blames you for that. But those who deny they are fat, actually they are fat, yet they consider themselves looking very slim and sexy. But because of such denial that leads to their fantasy, it actually affects their lives mentally in a way that they lose themselves and can't be for who they are. The original self is an important key to live a wonderful life, it allows you to be psychologically normal and happy. Yet when a person starts denying the truth, it somehow converts the mentality to state where as his or her life starts to lose its texture. People claim they are not confident by the way how they look, it's because they don't fill the fit in. But what's more important to this is PERSONALITY!
The best example in drama series is Ugly Betty, I watch it too very often! Ugly Betty doesn’t look great to be honest, yet she shows how great her personality is. You don't need a super-duper great looks to gain attention or get along with people around you, but yet it is the personality that matters most. Some girls may look gorgeously beautiful, but by the instant you realize how terrible their personality and attitude are, you would run away! So after all, being yourself and bring honesty into yourself is important. It's not only to the issue about how you look, but it also applies to what you do.
So people can be very denying when it comes to certain things, even in a relationship. Some people deny they have attitude problems in a relationship, perhaps old habits or something. Yet this is the kind of arguments that revolve around men and women. Okay, it's not wrong to be yourself, but do be yourself in a positive way! Some men have alcohol problems, but they deny it because they feel alcohol is their holy water and they may say it's the only way of how men socialize, basically they are alcoholic and it's a very negative thing to do when you know alcohol is bad for health if too much is consumed. Well, men still can socialize with soda water and tea, not necessary alcohol. Thus, because of a drunk in a relationship hence the other half is deeply affected. What do men do to their love ones when they are drunk? Aggressive? Abusive? Yes, they do. It's because of this women are often led to the fear of having a relationship. Again, I would to say female species are fragile, once they are hurt they can be very suicidal. Thus, some women can be very denying when they have experienced a terrible relationship is because of fear and trying to prevent the same thing from happening again. But bear in mind, if it's often to deny certain truth about one's self in relationship, it will soon affect the relationship by creating a gap. Conversation would no longer be open because of the sensitivity of a self-denial individual, as one is afraid to face the truth. Hesitation, ignorance, and refusal are they major denying keys in a relationship, which results an argumentative relationship, lots of mouth fight and frustration in this. Thus, it is indeed a communication failure in such a way because of self-denial. Some women just do not wish to hear the truth because they afraid of encountering the problems, and hence the more problems that are not being solves the more it grows to mountains of frustrations.
We can see how vulnerable humans are, because it is planted within our nature. Yet, it is very sad to see people living with self-denial. But of course, this can be changed if one is willing to face the truth and not running away. Be brave and have the courage to face the future, and not fall back to be trapped in the past. Denying your future only makes you stay and fall back while others move on, it doesn't improve your life as it only worsen your's. We have already faced our worst fears when we were still young, but as we grow old, don't we become physically and mentally stronger than baby? Not to afraid is to take a step ahead, for it is for your own future's sake and not for others. Live up your life with honesty and integrity, for there's no regret in having your life on a greener pastures. There is no shame in being who you are as it is a God's given gift, for it is you who only have that special gift within yourself and not others. Stand for yourself to face the truth, for the truth is your true-self and it's in your own hands to fight. There is a tomorrow for the sun waits for no man, as clock only ticks forward yet there's no fallback. Hence, live life with dignity, respect and integrity…and don’t deny!
Some people think they are very charming and beautiful, just because the way they dress and with the amount of cosmetic they put on, they assume they are perfect. Of course, people dress up nicely and apply make-ups because it makes them feel confident, as what most people would say. But in actual fact, they are denying themselves because they cannot accept the original way they look. I'm not pointing towards those who live with simplicity, but it is to those who live with denials. Some girls are fat, fat as in huge body size, yet they dress in a way that we called "Horrible" because that is not what they are. My point is some big size ladies dress as if they are slim and sexy; tight clothing, short sexy skirts or pants. Imagine that, how would you feel when you see it with your own eyes? Okay, maybe they would say it makes them feel comfortable dressing that way, but, because they think they are sexy. In this case, perhaps I think she should take a good look in the mirror. People deny the actual fact just because they wanna to gain more attentions or fame. Of course, there's nothing wrong to be fat or big because it's written in the gene, nobody blames you for that. But those who deny they are fat, actually they are fat, yet they consider themselves looking very slim and sexy. But because of such denial that leads to their fantasy, it actually affects their lives mentally in a way that they lose themselves and can't be for who they are. The original self is an important key to live a wonderful life, it allows you to be psychologically normal and happy. Yet when a person starts denying the truth, it somehow converts the mentality to state where as his or her life starts to lose its texture. People claim they are not confident by the way how they look, it's because they don't fill the fit in. But what's more important to this is PERSONALITY!
The best example in drama series is Ugly Betty, I watch it too very often! Ugly Betty doesn’t look great to be honest, yet she shows how great her personality is. You don't need a super-duper great looks to gain attention or get along with people around you, but yet it is the personality that matters most. Some girls may look gorgeously beautiful, but by the instant you realize how terrible their personality and attitude are, you would run away! So after all, being yourself and bring honesty into yourself is important. It's not only to the issue about how you look, but it also applies to what you do.
So people can be very denying when it comes to certain things, even in a relationship. Some people deny they have attitude problems in a relationship, perhaps old habits or something. Yet this is the kind of arguments that revolve around men and women. Okay, it's not wrong to be yourself, but do be yourself in a positive way! Some men have alcohol problems, but they deny it because they feel alcohol is their holy water and they may say it's the only way of how men socialize, basically they are alcoholic and it's a very negative thing to do when you know alcohol is bad for health if too much is consumed. Well, men still can socialize with soda water and tea, not necessary alcohol. Thus, because of a drunk in a relationship hence the other half is deeply affected. What do men do to their love ones when they are drunk? Aggressive? Abusive? Yes, they do. It's because of this women are often led to the fear of having a relationship. Again, I would to say female species are fragile, once they are hurt they can be very suicidal. Thus, some women can be very denying when they have experienced a terrible relationship is because of fear and trying to prevent the same thing from happening again. But bear in mind, if it's often to deny certain truth about one's self in relationship, it will soon affect the relationship by creating a gap. Conversation would no longer be open because of the sensitivity of a self-denial individual, as one is afraid to face the truth. Hesitation, ignorance, and refusal are they major denying keys in a relationship, which results an argumentative relationship, lots of mouth fight and frustration in this. Thus, it is indeed a communication failure in such a way because of self-denial. Some women just do not wish to hear the truth because they afraid of encountering the problems, and hence the more problems that are not being solves the more it grows to mountains of frustrations.
We can see how vulnerable humans are, because it is planted within our nature. Yet, it is very sad to see people living with self-denial. But of course, this can be changed if one is willing to face the truth and not running away. Be brave and have the courage to face the future, and not fall back to be trapped in the past. Denying your future only makes you stay and fall back while others move on, it doesn't improve your life as it only worsen your's. We have already faced our worst fears when we were still young, but as we grow old, don't we become physically and mentally stronger than baby? Not to afraid is to take a step ahead, for it is for your own future's sake and not for others. Live up your life with honesty and integrity, for there's no regret in having your life on a greener pastures. There is no shame in being who you are as it is a God's given gift, for it is you who only have that special gift within yourself and not others. Stand for yourself to face the truth, for the truth is your true-self and it's in your own hands to fight. There is a tomorrow for the sun waits for no man, as clock only ticks forward yet there's no fallback. Hence, live life with dignity, respect and integrity…and don’t deny!
By Jack Ho
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